What If We Were Married?
Questions for two people about to become a married couple to share ahead of time
Thirty-nine cards for two people who are about to marry, or who are picturing married life together.
They slowly bring up the things you'll face in real life, like money, housework, family, children, days off, and each other's dreams.
Rather than getting the right answer, they're arranged to help you notice each other's standards and worries ahead of time.
How it works
- Cut out the cards, shuffle them, and pick one you can talk about today.
- Answer first, each on your own, then listen to your partner's answer without interrupting.
- If something doesn't need deciding right away, feel free to mark it and carry it over to your next conversation.
When · with whom
Good for couples preparing to marry, or any two people who want to calmly line up their standards for daily life before becoming a married couple.
What If We Were Married?
- Worry
- Time
- Money
- Housework
- Your Own Standard
- Children
- Being Cared For
- Your Resolve
- Roles
- Friends
- Fear
- What Lies Ahead
- Home
- Putting It Off
- The Elders
- A Life on Your Own
- Work and Life
- Love Before This
- Body and Heart
- Something Steady
- Marriage
- Meals
- A Habit
- Rules
- A Day Off
- What You Grew Up Seeing
- Growing Old
- What Holds You Up
- Caring for Family
- Spending and Saving
- Dream
- A Life for Two
- Differences
- Something to Learn
- Laughter
- Unguarded
- When Talk Flows
- Deciding Together
- A Small Life